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My husband and I, the Dynamic Duo, have been married since 2003. We've weathered the storm of chronic disease (diagnosis 2006), infertility (diagnosis 2007), turning 30 (2006/2007 respectively) a first adoption (2009) of a tender hearted, compassionate Ukrainian BIG boy (born 2006), who has told us he'd like a baby sister, baby brother, big brother, and REALLY big sister. We recently completed our second Ukrainian adoption journey, which brought us a daughter (born 2005). We'll see what else God brings our way!

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Stay At Home Moms

I've been having some struggles lately so I thought I'd express them and see what kind of response I get.

I don't work. By work I mean bring in any kind of income. At all. I don't sell make up, nutritional supplements, kitchenware or jewelry. And I don't have any kind of part time job that would include my son. I don't coupon cut or ebay, nor am I all that great with budgeting the money Dave gives me for the groceries each week. I told Dave before we got married that I wouldn't marry him unless he committed to supporting me as a stay at home mom, only working if it was necessary. And he has.

I have to point out that I don't need to work. Dave is not in jeopardy of losing his job, and we are living well within our means. We have a modest house in a great neighborhood and no expensive hobbies (Ok, so my shopping COULD get expensive if I let it).

I volunteer my time...I LOVE helping others in whatever way I can (yes, I offer FREE babysitting to anyone willing to drop off their kids at my house!) and I hate being paid for it. I live in the church during the year, helping out wherever I can (although I've cut back a lot since Eli came in to the picture!)

But a Christian wife's example, the Proverbs 31 woman, earned money and sewed for her family.
Proverbs 31:16 She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

Proverbs 31:18 She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.

Proverbs 31:22 She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

Proverbs 31:24 She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.

I guess some days I feel lazy, like I'm not doing enough, like I should be busier doing something for my family. I can count on one hand the women who don't work outside the home. I'm sure I'm being unrealistic with myself. But sometimes it's lonely being a stay at home mom in a working mom's world :(